2008 Woodie Awards
Lights out with Liz
The secrets of fake orgasms
Liz Lumiere
Issue date: 3/30/07 Section: A&E
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Searching "is her orgasm real?" on Google returns 1,270,000 results. "How to fake an orgasm" turns up 1,260,000 results. Apparently, people are aware that faking a climax during sex occurs. Is it solely women who fake it? Man or woman, is it okay to pretend to have an orgasm?
The dating service Lavalife polled 6,350 women and 82% of them reported faking an orgasm. They also polled 9,100 men. Here is where it gets interesting: of those men, 48% admitted to faking orgasms as well. So, contrary to popular belief, men fake the big O too!
But first, why do women fake it? "It's like Santa Clause; you just tell the kids it's real to make them happy," said an anonymous UPS male sophomore.
True, a lover can feel a sense of accomplishment knowing he or she is capable of giving his or her partner an orgasm.
When it comes (no pun intended) to giving a woman an orgasm, there is an understanding that the female orgasm is harder to achieve than the male orgasm. In fact, according to Jane magazine only 30-35% of women can actually have an orgasm during intercourse. It is not hard to fake an orgasm. Sally sure shows Harry.
"Who is to say that one moment is any more important than when [your partner] gets up and pours you a cup of coffee in the morning?" asks Charlotte, on an episode of Sex and the City. As she implies, there is a large amount of emphasis placed on the orgasm during sex, but if it is understood that only three out ten women can orgasm during intercourse, a partner should not have hurt feelings if it does not happen.
Hold on, though. I am not saying a woman's partner should give up on the female orgasm (come on, some women can have more than one). Just do not get caught up on having an orgasm during intercourse. Perhaps start with oral sex or manual stimulation and then attempt an orgasm through intercourse. If that does not do the trick, rely upon other sex play.
So why are men faking it? The men who responded to the Lavalife poll referenced being tired and/or feeling like they were going to lose their erection. Essentially, these men reported faking it in order to end sexual intercourse.
The dating service Lavalife polled 6,350 women and 82% of them reported faking an orgasm. They also polled 9,100 men. Here is where it gets interesting: of those men, 48% admitted to faking orgasms as well. So, contrary to popular belief, men fake the big O too!
But first, why do women fake it? "It's like Santa Clause; you just tell the kids it's real to make them happy," said an anonymous UPS male sophomore.
True, a lover can feel a sense of accomplishment knowing he or she is capable of giving his or her partner an orgasm.
When it comes (no pun intended) to giving a woman an orgasm, there is an understanding that the female orgasm is harder to achieve than the male orgasm. In fact, according to Jane magazine only 30-35% of women can actually have an orgasm during intercourse. It is not hard to fake an orgasm. Sally sure shows Harry.
"Who is to say that one moment is any more important than when [your partner] gets up and pours you a cup of coffee in the morning?" asks Charlotte, on an episode of Sex and the City. As she implies, there is a large amount of emphasis placed on the orgasm during sex, but if it is understood that only three out ten women can orgasm during intercourse, a partner should not have hurt feelings if it does not happen.
Hold on, though. I am not saying a woman's partner should give up on the female orgasm (come on, some women can have more than one). Just do not get caught up on having an orgasm during intercourse. Perhaps start with oral sex or manual stimulation and then attempt an orgasm through intercourse. If that does not do the trick, rely upon other sex play.
So why are men faking it? The men who responded to the Lavalife poll referenced being tired and/or feeling like they were going to lose their erection. Essentially, these men reported faking it in order to end sexual intercourse.
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